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Stress, Burn Out, Work Life Balance
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Hello Everyone,

The focus for this months newsletter is ‘Stress, Burn Out, Work Life Balance’. This month’s newsletter provides you with a number of articles that explores what stress and burnout are and gives some ideas of how to work through these.

‘Stress is like an iceberg. We can see one-eight of it above, but what about what’s below?’ There are hundreds of thousands of quotes that are found on the internet and this one resonated with me when researching stress. Often what you see or experience when someone else is demonstrating that they are stressed is a very small percentage of exactly what they are experiencing.

‘Like all great champions, Tiger has the ability to raise his game when he has to. He is not going to burn out because he plays for his own joy and passion.’ Jay Brunza

‘"We have overstretched our personal boundaries and forgotten that true happiness comes from living an authentic life fuelled with a sense of purpose and balance." Dr. Kathleen Hall, from A Life in Balance

How are Stress, Burn Out and Work Life Balance connected? As coaches we often discuss one, two or three of these with our clients. What starts your client feeling that they are ‘stressed’, or on the edge of a ‘burn out’? What makes them want to talk about bringing a balance in their own lives? We know from our own experiences that no two clients raise this topic from the same experiences, but some of the underlying triggers are a feeling of too much to do, or to many expectations from others, or trying to work through something that they don’t understand. Whatever the reason, it is being shown that these topics are being raised more frequently at the moment. Please share your experiences and your learnings with us to allow us to publish some great ideas to assist other members when they are working with their clients.

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Burnout - What it is and What it is Not.

What is Burnout


Burnout is a state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed and unable to meet constant demands. As the stress continues, you begin to lose the interest or motivation that led you to take on a certain role in the first place.

Burnout reduces your productivity and saps your energy, leaving you feeling increasingly helpless, hopeless, cynical, and resentful. Eventually, you may feel like you have nothing more to give.

Most of us have days when we feel bored, overloaded, or unappreciated; when the dozen balls we keep in the air aren’t noticed, let alone rewarded; when dragging ourselves out of bed requires the determination of Hercules. If you feel like this most of the time, however, you may be flirting with burnout.

You may be on the road to burnout if:

  • Every day is a bad day.
  • Caring about your work or home life seems like a total waste of energy.
  • You’re exhausted all the time.
  • The majority of your day is spent on tasks you find either mind-numbingly dull or overwhelming.
  • You feel like nothing you do makes a difference or is appreciated.

Burnout is not the same as Stress
 

Burnout is often the result of unrelenting stress, but it isn’t the same as too much stress. Stress, by and large, involves too much: too many pressures that demand too much of you physically and psychologically. Stressed people can still imagine, though, that if they can just get everything under control, they’ll feel better.
Burnout, on the other hand, is about not enough. Being burned out means feeling empty, devoid of motivation, and beyond caring. People experiencing burnout often don’t see any hope of positive change in their situations. If excessive stress is like drowning in responsibilities, burnout is being all dried up. One other difference between stress and burnout: While you’re usually aware of being under a lot of stress, you don’t always notice burnout when it happens.

Stress vs. Burnout

Stress Burnout
Characterized by overengagement Characterized by disengagement
Emotions are overreactive Emotions are blunted
Produces urgency and hyperactivity Produces helplessness and hopelessness
Loss of energy Loss of motivation, ideals, and hope
Leads to anxiety disorders Leads to detachment and depression
Primary damage is physical Primary damage is emotional
May kill you prematurely May make life seem not worth living


Warning signs and symptoms of burnout
 

Burnout is a gradual process that occurs over an extended period of time. It doesn’t happen overnight, but it can creep up on you if you’re not paying attention to the warning signals. The signs and symptoms of burnout are subtle at first, but they get worse and worse as time goes on.

Think of the early symptoms of burnout as warning signs or red flags that something is wrong that needs to be addressed. If you pay attention to these early warning signs, you can prevent a major breakdown. If you ignore them, you’ll eventually burn out.

Physical signs and symptoms of burnout

Feeling tired and drained most of the time  Frequent headaches, back pain, muscle aches 
Lowered immunity, feeling sick a lot   Change in appetite or sleep habits 

Emotional signs and symptoms of burnout

Sense of failure and self-doubt  Loss of motivation 
Feeling helpless, trapped, and defeated   Increasingly cynical and negative outlook 
Detachment, feeling alone in the world   Decreased satisfaction and sense of accomplishment 

Behavioural signs and symptoms of burnout

Withdrawing from responsibilities   Using food, drugs, or alcohol to cope 
Isolating yourself from others   Taking out your frustrations on others 
Procrastinating, taking longer to get things done   Skipping work or coming in late and leaving early 


If constant stress has you feeling disillusioned, helpless, and completely worn out, you may be suffering from burnout. When you’re burned out, problems seem insurmountable, everything looks bleak, and it’s difficult to muster up the energy to care—let alone do something about your situation.

The unhappiness and detachment burnout causes can threaten your job, your relationships, and your health. But burnout can be healed. If you recognize the signs and symptoms of burnout in its early stages, simple stress management strategies may be enough to solve the problem. In the later stages of burnout, recovery may take more time and effort, but you can still regain your balance by reassessing your priorities, making time for yourself, and seeking support.

Preventing burnout
 

If you recognize the warning signs of impending burnout in yourself, remember that it will only get worse if you leave it alone. But if you take steps to get your life back into balance, you can prevent burnout from becoming a full-blown breakdown.

Burnout prevention tips

  • Start the day with a relaxing ritual. Rather than jumping out of bed as soon as you wake up, spend at least fifteen minutes meditating, writing in your journal, doing gentle stretches, or reading something that inspires you.
  • Adopt healthy eating, exercising, and sleeping habits. When you eat right, engage in regular physical activity, and get plenty of rest, you have the energy and resilience to deal with life’s hassles and demands.
  • Set boundaries. Don’t overextend yourself. Learn how to say “no” to requests on your time. If you find this difficult, remind yourself that saying “no” allows you to say “yes” to the things that you truly want to do.
  • Take a daily break from technology. Set a time each day when you completely disconnect. Put away your laptop, turn off your phone, and stop checking email.
  • Nourish your creative side. Creativity is a powerful antidote to burnout. Try something new, start a fun project, or resume a favorite hobby. Choose activities that have nothing to do with work.
  • Learn how to manage stress. When you’re on the road to burnout, you may feel helpless. But you have a lot more control over stress than you may think. Learning how to manage stress can help you regain your balance.

 

 

Top Tips - How to quickly manage stress

When we're under high levels of stress, our logical, rational and decision making side of the brain frequently shuts down. We can become overwhelmed and lose the ability to focus on the moment.

By learning how to quickly and reliably relieve or simply manage stress we are better placed to retain focus, face challenges and maintain a sense of perspective.

Tip 1: Realize when you're stressed


Do you actually know when you are stressed? It seems that stress goes hand in hand with modern living and many of us spend so much time in a stressed state, we have forgotten what it feels like to be fully relaxed and alert.

You may be stressed if :

  • You feel drained and depleted
  • You can't concentrate or think straight
  • You feel nervous and keyed up
  • Your stomach is upset
  • You're having trouble sleeping
  • Your muscles are tense

Alternatively,what does it feel like to calm and stress-free? Can you remember? When do you feel that "just right" inner balance,.? When are you 'in the zone' ? When does the time pass effortlessly? When are you like a child...carefree and optimistic? The responses to these questions will help you define calmness, peace and balance.

Tip 2: Identify your stress response

Everyone reacts differently to stress. Some people get angry and do or say things they regret. Others shut down, withdraw, or freeze with anxiety. The best way to quickly relieve stress and calm yourself down depends on your specific stress response.

Psychologist Connie Lillas uses a driving analogy to describe the three most common ways people respond when they're overwhelmed by stress:

  • Foot on the gas - An angry or agitated stress response. You're heated, keyed up, overly emotional, and unable to sit still.
  • Foot on the brake - A withdrawn or depressed stress response. You shut down, space out, and show very little energy or emotion.
  • Foot on both - A tense and frozen stress response. You "freeze" under pressure and can't do anything. You look paralyzed, but under the surface you're extremely agitated.

What is your way of responding?
When it comes to managing and reducing stress quickly in the middle of a heated situation, it's important to know whether you tend to become overexcited or underexcited when overwhelmed.

  • Overexcited - If you tend to become angry, agitated, or keyed up under stress, you will respond best to stress relief activities that are calming and soothing.
  • Underexcited - If you tend to become frozen, depressed, withdrawn, or spaced out under stress, you will respond best to stress relief activities that are stimulating and that energize your nervous system.

Identify which is your preferred response and than have the appropriate strategies to hand.


Tip 3: Discover what works for you

The best way to reduce stress quickly and reliably is through the senses: through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. But each person responds differently to sensory input, so you need to find things that are soothing to you.

We all have different preferences and needs. What some people find soothing may be unpleasant or even stressful to others. For example, certain kinds of music may relax one person but irritate another. So you need to be a "stress-buster detective," spending time figuring out what works for you. Then you can use what you've learned to create calming, sensory-rich environments at home, in your car, at the office, or wherever you spend time.

Knowing yourself is essential so that you can :

  • Speed up, if you are a person who is spaced out or depressed
  • Slow down, if you are a person who is angry or agitated
  • Help get unstuck, if you are a person who is frozen with anxiety


Learning the sensory stress-busting techniques that work for you give you a powerful tool for staying clear-headed and in control. You'll have the confidence to face challenges, knowing that you have the ability to rapidly bring yourself back into a state of equilibrium.

It's important to identify stress relief techniques that:

  • Both relax and energize you
  • Have an immediate impact on your stress
  • Are enjoyable and make you feel good
  • Consistently work for you
  • Are always available or easily accessible

 

The Sensory Solution to Stress Relief

The five senses: The best way to quickly relieve and manage stress
Research and experience shows that you can rapidly reverse the effects of stress by exposing yourself to sensory input that brings you back into balance and centredness.. Sensory input encompasses what we hear, feel, touch, taste, and see. You can use the five senses to soothe, comfort, and invigorate yourself almost immediately. All you need are a few short minutes.

Movement for quick stress relief
If you tend to shut down when you're under stress, stress-relieving activities that get you moving may be particularly helpful. Anything that engages the muscles or gets you up and active can work. Here are a few suggestions:

  • Run in place.
  • Jump up and down.
  • Dance around.
  • Roll your head in circles.
  • Do a few quick yoga stretches.
  • Stamp your feet.
  • Go for a short walk.
  • Squeeze a rubbery stress ball.


Sight for quick stress relief
If you're a visual person, try to manage and relieve stress by surrounding yourself with soothing and uplifting images. You can also try closing your eyes and imaging the soothing images. Here are a few visually-based activities that may work as quick stress relievers:

  • Decorate your home or office with cherished photos and favorite mementos.
  • Bring the outside indoors; buy a plant or some flowers to enliven your space.
  • Enjoy the beauty of nature-a garden, the beach, a park, or your own backyard.
  • Surround yourself with colors that lift your spirits (paint your walls with your favorite color, for example)
  • Close your eyes and picture a situation or place that feels peaceful and rejuvenating(e.g. playing with a beloved pet or baby; thrilling to a game of tennis or basketball; a day at the seashore swimming in clear blue water). The more sensory rich the image, the better.


Sound for quick stress relief
Are you sensitive to sounds and noises? Are you a music lover? If so, stress-relieving exercises that focus on your auditory sense may work particularly well. Experiment with the following sounds, noting how quickly your stress levels drop as you listen:

  • Sing or a hum a favorite tune.
  • Listen to uplifting music.
  • Tune in to the soundtrack of nature-crashing waves, the wind rustling the trees, birds singing.
  • Play an instrumental or classical CD.
  • Hang wind chimes near an open window.
  • Buy a small fountain, so you can enjoy the soothing sound of running water in your home or office.


Smell for quick stress relief
If you tend to zone out or freeze when stressed, surround yourself with smells that are energizing and invigorating. If you tend to become overly agitated under stress, look for scents that are comforting and calming.

  • Spritz on your favorite perfume or cologne.
  • Light a scented candle or burn some incense.
  • Lie down in sheets scented with lavender.
  • Breathe in the smell of freshly brewed coffee or tea.
  • Smell the roses or another type of flower.
  • Enjoy the clean, fresh air in the great outdoors.


Taste for quick stress relief
Slowly savuoring a favorite treat can be very relaxing, but mindless stress eating will only add to your stress-and your waistline. The key is to indulge your sense of taste mindfully and in moderation. Eat slowly, focusing on the feel of the food in your mouth and the taste on your tongue:

  • Drink a refreshing cold beverage.
  • Chew a piece of sugarless gum.
  • Indulge in a small piece of dark chocolate.
  • Sip a steaming cup of tea.
  • Enjoy a perfectly ripe piece of fruit. ·
  • Savour a healthy, crunchy snack like celery, carrots, or trail mix.

Learning to use your senses to quickly manage stress is a little like learning to drive or to play golf. You don't master the skill in one lesson-you have to practice until it becomes second nature. Once you have a variety of sensory tools you can depend on and use, you'll be able to handle even the toughest of situations.

 

Your Questions Answered
Q – I am a working mother and I am finding it really difficult to juggle the demands of my family and my job. I am constantly tired and feel that I can’t give 100% to either rmy family or my work. Elaine


A – Elaine, you are not alone. Studies from various occupational health organisations show that we are increasingly burdening ourselves and that our traditional coping strategies are not as successful as they were in the past. Much of this is due to working conditions and the associated pressures that we now experience.

These include:
  • Growing psychological demands as we increase productivity demands and work longer hours
  • The need to gather and apply growing amounts of information
  • Job insecurity
  • Demographic changes such as aging workers, female participation in the workforce, and the integration of other population.s into the workplace
  • The need for both men and women to balance obligations between work and family as women enter the workforce worldwide
  • The logistics of afforable child care and the breakdown of traditional extended family support mechanisms

It’s a worldwide phenomenon. Increased stress is felt worldwide, and stress affects women differently than men:
A recent survey of 30,000 respondents between the ages of 13 and 65 in 30 countries showed:
  • women who work full-time and have children under the age of 13 report the greatest stress worldwide
  • nearly one in four mothers who work full-time and have children under 13 feel stress almost every day
  • globally, 23% of women executives and professionals, and 19% of their male peers, say they feel "super-stressed"

There are numerous health issues connected with stress, Elaine and your exhaustion is typical. You need to take care of yourself so that you can give of your best to those around you. The following tips should help
  • Start the day with a relaxing ritual. Rather jumping out of bed as soon as you wake up, spend at least fifteen minutes meditating, writing in your journal, doing gentle stretches, or reading something that inspires you.
  • Adopt healthy eating, exercising, and sleeping habits. When you eat right, engage in regular physical activity, and get plenty of rest, you have the energy and resilience to deal with life’s hassles and demands.
  • Set boundaries. Don’t overextend yourself. Learn how to say “no” to requests on your time. If you find this difficult, remind yourself that saying “no” allows you to say “yes” to the things that you truly want to do.
  • Take a daily break from technology. Set a time each day when you completely disconnect. Put away your laptop, turn off your phone, and stop checking email.
  • Nourish your creative side. Creativity is a powerful antidote to modern day stress. Try something new, start a fun project, or resume a favorite hobby. Choose activities that have nothing to do with work.
  • Learn how to manage stress. You have a lot more control over stress than you may think. Learning how to manage stress can help you regain your balance. Why don’t you identify 3 stressors that you are actually experiencing just now. Using some of the points above, devise an alternative plan or approach when these stressors invade your life.Its amazing how even small steps can have a big impact.



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Stress Busting

Stress comes in many forms - relationships, work, health, hormones, momentary dilemmas, and more - and there are just as many ways to tackle it. Here's a list of helpful stress soothers, (courtesy of www.marksdailyapple.com ) that are so simple, they're often forgotten. They're not ground-breaking by any means, but they work! So, while these won't resolve major conflicts or heal a tired body, they will give you a quick mental lift. And sometimes, that's all you really need.

Disconnect.
Being connected 24/7 isn't really necessary. One of the simplest ways to restore a little serenity in the midst of a hectic week is to turn off the phone. You'd be surprised how simply turning off the ringer can bring instant calm.


Lose the alarm.
Try going to bed an hour earlier during stressful days (write down your worries first so you don't toss and turn). You probably won't need your alarm if you do this - you may even develop this into a healthy new habit! The alarm clock can be very stressful. A lot of us wake up and calculate how many more hours of sleep we have, or we wake up a bit too early and dread the sound we know is coming. So lose the alarm. If you have to use one, get the kind that plays soothing nature sounds or music.

Have fun.
Laughter is an instant cure for stress. We all know this, but we often fail to take advantage of it. There's no limit to how much fun you can have, and people don't have enough! No one's watching and waiting to criticize you for laughing too much (honest). It's healthy.

A little dab will do.
Buy some spearmint oil. Whenever you're feeling a little stressed, dab some on your temples and the back of your neck. No, this won't alleviate the "joy" of that half-hour on the phone with automated customer service, but it's a cheap, easy treat that feels and smells wonderful. We're allowed to find little ways to feel good - and there's no limit! If you would rather not be minty fresh, at least keep a candle in your favorite scent on hand for some effective aromatherapy. It smells better than coffee!


Keep quiet.
Though it's generally healthy to get your feelings out, sometimes you'll actually feel better if you just keep quiet. I'm not talking about giving the "silent treatment" when you're angry. That's not healthy. But sometimes, if something is bothering you, it's wise not to react. Wait and act later if necessary. Often, quelling a knee-jerk reaction will actually boost your confidence and give you greater relief than if you'd immediately vented. Keep quiet or speak up? It does require trial and error - you'll find the right balance. One helpful tip is to ask yourself if reacting in the moment will be of greater benefit than acting later.

Out and about? Be friendly.
Some days, it seems as if everyone has woken up on the wrong side of bed. To make it even worse, you've just been nabbed with a parking ticket and now the line at the bank is a mile long. Rather than add to everyone's stress by commiserating, be friendly and cheerful. This will reduce others' anxiety, but that's not really the main purpose: you get the most benefit of all.

Alleviate someone else's stress.
If you notice a waiter seems despondent, smile; leave a tip. Bag your own groceries for the frazzled check out operator. Make eye contact with everyone you meet as your run your errands. Alleviating the stress of others is the best way to alleviate your own.

Push the wall.File this under "stupidly effective". Here's a nifty little body trick to release some pent-up stress: stand about three feet from a wall (you will have to adjust for your individual height). Reaching out with both arms, lean at an angle into the wall and press with all your might (your body should form a triangle with the wall and the floor). Keep your feet locked on the floor so your Achilles tendons get a really good stretch. The further you stretch and harder you press, the more tension you'll release from your hamstrings. And did you know hamstrings are one of the first muscle groups to store tension?


Keep a happy journal.
An alternative is to keep a happy journal: anytime you have a good moment, even if it's a great meal or a beautiful sunset, write it down. We think we'll remember the happiest moments of our daily lives, but we often forget. Can you even remember what you had for dinner last week? Keep a record of the good stuff for days when you need a lift!

These tips are not necessarily ground breaking, but they do help and just because we know them doesn't mean that every-one else does. Share them with some-one, the actof sharing is in itself de-stressing.

 

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Everyone who has qualified as a coach with a recognised coach training company should now take the opportunity to register. This will dramatically cut down on any misrepresentation that goes on within the industry. Many people have websites and call themselves a
coach but have no actual qualifications. The register will stop these people and raise the profile of genuine coaching and how it can transform people’s lives.

C.E.O. of the ECI Gerard O’Donovan said “the register has been administered by the ECI for the benefit of the world of coaching and coaching clients. It is also a great way for coaches to get business as members of the public can search for registered coaches in their area. It brings coaching transparency at last.”

As a Member of the ECI, Have you published your details on the International Coaching Register, at no charge?
To do so:

Login to the ECI Members Area, and then select the ICR Register Edits menu option on the left hand side of the screen.

Create your entry by selecting:

  • Insurance - enter your Professional Indemnity Insurance details here.

     
  • Training - enter the details of all the training courses you have completed here.

     
  • Workshops - enter the details of all the workshops you have attended here.

     
  • Accreditation - your ECI Accreditation details will automatically be included here. You also have the opportunity to enter the details of all the accreditations/credentials you have been awarded, as an independent verification of your coach training and experience.

     
  • Business Details - select or enter all types of coaching you include in your Coaching Business/Practice.

     
  • Organisation Membership Details - enter the details of all Business Organisations in which you hold a membership - these could be other Coaching Bodies, Chamber of Commerce, or any type of organisation that is appropriate to your business.

     
  • Display - do not forget to DISPLAY your details. Selecting yes your details will be displayed on the International Coaching Register. For ECI Accredited Coaches, your details will also be displayed on the ECIs Coaching Referral programme.

     


We look forward to seeing you on the International Coaching Register.  

 

Work-Life Balance Defined - What it really means!

Despite the worldwide quest for Work-Life Balance, very few have found an acceptable definition of the concept. Here's a proven definition that will positively impact your everyday value and balance starting today. (Average reading time 120 seconds).

Let's first define what work-life balance is not.

Work-Life Balance does not mean an equal balance. Trying to schedule an equal number of hours for each of your various work and personal activities is usually unrewarding and unrealistic. Life is and should be more fluid than that.

Your best individual work-life balance will vary over time, often on a daily basis. The right balance for you today will probably be different for you tomorrow. The right balance for you when you are single will be different when you marry, or if you have children; when you start a new career versus when you are nearing retirement.

There is no perfect, one-size fits all, balance you should be striving for. The best work-life balance is different for each of us because we all have different priorities and different lives.

However, at the core of an effective work-life balance definition are two key everyday concepts that are relevant to each of us. They are daily Achievement and Enjoyment, ideas almost deceptive in their simplicity.

Engraining a fuller meaning of these two concepts takes us most of the way to defining a positive Work-Life Balance. Achievement and Enjoyment answer the big question "Why?" Why do you want a better income…a new house…the kids through college…to do a good job today…to come to work at all?

Most of us already have a good grasp on the meaning of Achievement. But let's explore the concept of Enjoyment a little more. As part of a relevant Work-Life Balance definition, enjoyment does not just mean "Ha-Ha" happiness. It means Pride, Satisfaction, Happiness, Celebration, Love, A Sense of Well Being …all the Joys of Living.

Achievement and Enjoyment are the front and back of the coin of value in life. You can't have one without the other, no more than you can have a coin with only one side. Trying to live a one sided life is why so many "Successful" people are not happy, or not nearly as happy as they should be.

You cannot get the full value from life without BOTH Achievement and Enjoyment. Focusing on Achievement and Enjoyment every day in life helps you avoid the "As Soon As Trap", the life dulling habit of planning on getting around to the joys of life and accomplishment "as soon as…."

My caffeine source is diet cola. But I'm a somewhat fussy diet cola drinker. I don't like cans or bottles, I like fountain. And there is a big difference in fountain drinks. So I know all the best fountains within a five-mile radius of my house and office. My favourite is a little convenience store near my home called Fitzgerald's.

Let's say I'm wandering into Fitzgerald's at 6 in the morning, in my pre-caffeinated state and the implausible happens. Some philosophical guy bumps into me, and says…. "Heh mister… what's your purpose in life?" Well even in that half-awake condition, I'd have an answer for him. I'd say, "You know, I just want to achieve something today and I want to enjoy something today. And if I do both of those things today, I'm going to have a pretty good day. And if I do both of those things every day, for the rest of my life… I'm going to have a pretty good life."

And I think that's true for all of us. Life will deliver the value and balance we desire …when we are achieving and enjoying something every single day…in all the important areas that make up our lives. As a result, a good working definition of Work-Life Balance is:

Meaningful daily Achievement and Enjoyment in each of my four life quadrants: Work, Family, Friends and Self.

Ask yourself now, when was the last time you Achieved AND Enjoyed something at work? What about Achieved AND Enjoyed with your family; your friends? And how recently have you Achieved AND Enjoyed something just for you?

Why not take 20 minutes on the way home from work and do something just for yourself? And when you get home, before you walk in the door, think about whether you want to focus on achieving or enjoying at home tonight. Then act accordingly when you do walk in the door.

At work you can create your own best Work-Life Balance by making sure you not only Achieve, but also reflect the joy of the job, and the joy of life, every day. If nobody pats you on the back today, pat yourself on the back. And help others to do the same.

When you do, when you are a person that not only gets things done, but also enjoys the doing, it attracts people to you. They want you on their team and they want to be on your team.

Simple concepts. And once you focus on them as key components of your day, they are not that hard to implement. So, make it happen, for yourself, your family and all the important individuals you care about…every day for the rest of your life… Achieve and Enjoy.

Jim Bird, Publisher
WorkLifeBalance.com
 

© 2009 Jim Bird.  All Rights Reserved

 

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